Connecting with each other

Connecting with each other means there is a real trust and love to be honest about our faith, in our emotions and our circumstances. It is also about being about to have fun together and enjoy each other’s company.

“We are in the same storm, but we are not all in the same boat.” We may not be able to meet up but we are in a unique position that we are much clearer about some of the areas each other may be struggling. This is an opportunity for deeper connection and support.


  • What are your support networks now?
  • What can you offer each other?
  • What do you need?
  • How can you grow in trust and relationship with each other?

Ideas to spark your imagination


Sessions together:

  • Use language of being together, such as ‘great to see you all’, ‘we’re meeting at 7.30’. Reinforce the togetherness.
  • Give each other uninterrupted time to just speak about how they are doing. Save questions and tangents for when they have had that time.
  • Ask ‘What do you need?’ It may be prayer, emotional support or practical help. Learn to both give and to receive help from one another.
  • Online and phone meetings often feel less personal because people are not physically there. But, it also means some people feel safer to share in more depth, do not be afraid of asking each other how you really are.

In daily life:

  • Be part of each other’s lives. Ask each other questions, check in with each other, be present in the ways you can.
  • 1 to 1 time is also important. You cannot have them on group video calls, so call, message, video call at different times. It may happen naturally or you could ‘buddy up’ to mix up the group.
  • Prayer walks. If you live near one another (or other people from church), take your daily exercise past houses and pray for them as you pass.

Meeting up:

  • Organise socials. It is about having fun as well. Come up with your own idea or click here for a few ideas.
  • If your church has an online service. Message as you arrive, perhaps with pictures of your refreshments or home ‘pews’, it brings a sense of togetherness even if you aren’t doing it at the same time.
  • How often did you see each other before? You may want to increase how often you meet, even if additional sessions are shorter or in smaller groups.